CHANGE

The one thing that is told best by pictures

Most of the people in my life are not so scared of change, and that, I think- puts me in an arguably safe place.

When you are in a world that is not so scared of change, you are either very open to change or not so scared of making differences in your life.

To all my friend and my family- Thank you for not fearing the unknown, thorough your courage I've grown a bit of my own. Thank you for opening up to me, it was the only way I would know how refreshing change can be.

People meet, they fall in-love, hook-up and then break up only to continue as if they've never met. For me, this year was full of nothing more than Break-ups. Different people, different reasons. It is scary when you have at some stage in your life, looked at a pair of friends (dating) and you know deep down in your heart that they will one day get married to each other. And then, He- Banna, they are not even friends anymore.

Here are some of the people who heve ditched long term relationships and their reasons.

Lavinia and Henry- Just when we all thought, these two are meant to be. There is this on Lavinia's blog.

"The Lavinia and Henry show has been cancelled

It just had to happen didn't it? And its all good.Henry and I are broken up. He says he needs time to think about things, which is fair because a lot of things between us were hurtling too far and too fast. Issues of marriage, kids, our future and trust were all coming up very often and we could not find really much common ground. Where we did it was tenuous.

The 13 year age difference, work stress on his part, my focus on my own job and career, the way he ended things with his ex and a whole lot of other issues have contributed to this. I guess in a way I was in denial, but I wrote him a tear-stained letter on Friday explaining my insecurities about our relationship, how I'd felt hurt by some of the things we had done to each other and I told him it might be better if we ended up with other people....................................."

Followed by this on Henry's blog

"Factum est

It's done... I'm not sure what's been done. But I did it.I broke up with Lavinia last night.I'm not even sure entirely why, because I think I love her. This will take some explanation.

First, I really don't even have anything bad to say about her. Lavinia is intelligent, pretty, and destined for success. The perfect girl, right? After meeting her, one of Shoni's friends told me "If you ever lose her, I will kill you. I will find you and kill you!" Hopefully, he doesn't read my blog.

I spoke to my friend Rich after breaking up with her last night. His first comment was "You're kidding, right? Oh shit. Man, why didn't you call me before you did it!?" He said this like I was an idiot and he could have talked some sense into me if I'd just given him a chance. Though after explaining myself, he seemed to agree that I did the right thing considering how confused I was......................................................."

Keneilwe and Reggie- Everyone saw this one coming. Keneilwe used to spend so much time with Kaix or talking about Kaix. I always knew that she was happier having a conversation for 5 hours with Kaix in his car, than she was visiting Reggie for a weekend. The break-up was not based on Keneilwe's dealing with Kaix, Reggie was too far, too distant, maybe too underving of her, too --------. Don't get me wrong here, they had a banging relationship, which is why it lasted for so many years and their break-up came as a shock. Keneilwe is with Kaix and to be frank with you, I couldn't be happier for her. They are so inlove.

Nicci and Cornel - One of those cases where one just needs to say, "Only GOD knows".

They were together for six years. No problems, no fights according to what I know. All of a sudden, my coloured friends are apart.

To be continued...............................