My Black Sister

WHY?

This morning I got into a taxi (minibus) it was not yet full. So while we (me and the other commuters) waited for the taxi to fill-up, along came a very beautiful sister. From where I was sitting, it was very evident that she is on her way to work.

She had on an outfit that screams :"I know nothing about colour co-ordination", could hardly walk in her high-heels and she had on what I will (lack of a better word) call a 'shit' wig. It was terrible. Too shiny, too long and most definately not meant for her. To top it off- It seemed to me like she was feeling herself(thought she was all that). I know her hair has nothing to do with me but I couldn't and still can't get over it.

She is not the only sister I saw with a wig on this morning,

INFACT: these days I see more wigs than I see natural afros, chiskops (bold), corn-rowns, braids, dreadlocks and even just relaxed hair.

I think (we) the black (african) race are the luckiest when it comes to the number of things we can do with our hair. My head has been around.

CHISKOP, CORN-ROWS, BRAIDS, AFRO, DREADLOCK (lasted for about 2 days), DRY PERM and right now my hair is relaxed.

I'm still looking for more things to do with my hair without looking stupid or going fake.

I have nothing against sisters who prefer and use weaves and wigs. I also have nothing against those who produce them, my only problem is the fact that we are becoming way too fake.

It looks to me like most black women think having a wig or weave makes them look more glamourous/educated/loaded when it just in fact does the total opposite.

WHO ARE WE TRYING TO FOOL?

If you want longer hair- grow your own. If you want shinier hair- Process it. If you want to look very fake (and to a certain degree dumb)- rock a wig. FYI- Guys do not like it at all y'all.

Look at women like:-

• Mmabatho Montsho (Lumka- Generations)
• Lebo Mashile (Poet- L'attidute)
• Nkhensani Nkosi (MOJO- S Cherrie)
• Twasa (Jam Alley)
• India Arie (Brownskin Fame)

They are very beautiful and natural at the same time, they need absolutely no attachment to their hair to feel beautiful or elegant. No fake eyelashes, no heavy make-up, no plastic hair and absolutely no pain.

Whoever said glam and elegance have anything to do with length and shine to my black sisters is/was/will be wrong.

With all due respect, What the hell is a 20-year-old girl doing with a wig?

Think about this. What's wrong with these hair-dos?

Drag queens, cancer patients, senior citizens and those who need disguises need wigs. My point is- there are a lot of people out there who could use wigs and can not or will not use them.

Why hide your beauty? Nothing wrong with being a fashion victim, something wrong with purchasing hair when you have you own (beautiful and free of charge).

Nothing personal.

I mean I really miss a time when wigs were useful to stage and TV productions.

Silence not so GOLDEN afterall

I believe each and every one of us (Bloggers) have all- at some stage or another experienced a "No story- No wise words to impart- no news- no jokes and absolutely no interesting topic" period.

Henry had one of those for about 2 months, I could be wrong, maybe he just didn't have the time to update his blog. To be frank with you I wrote him off as lazy and only now do I understand what he must have been going through.

I'm going through one of those. I don't have anything to write about. I have about a million and one topics in my head, problem is: I really need to think before I start typing. I miss y'all and would like to exchange news, words and ideas but I'm stuck. This is the difinition of a mental block

Here is something I'm excited about though-

I'm getting a tatoo soon, My mother's name on my abdominal area (beneath the belly button/navel) in a really beautiful font.

I'm shit scared and very excited about it. I'll take a picture and let y'all know how it went.

I cried for 45 minutes when I got my first and only tatoo, the artist who did it says he'd never seen anything like it (an adult in tears due to pain- that would of course include everytime he'd seen someone give birth).

What are your feelings on tatoos?

Would you get one?

If you are parent- Would you let your Child get one?

Does pain freak you out?

Do you think they are meant for freaks?

Let me know and while you are at it here is what I have to share about tatoos.

If you choose the right one, you are bound to love it forever.

I love mine to bits, it also helps that I do not see it too often. I also like the fact that: Not everyone who knows me knows it or about it.

Here is what it looks like- Sowhat if you have to strain your neck to check it out?!